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3.Seeing in someone else's eyes

When you really think about it, we are all selfish with our own feelings. I remember when I was that way. Someone would upset me, and I would be mad. But really, there's a story behind everyone's eyes. Everyone thinks different, looks at things different, has different beliefs and ideas, and see everyone else and themselves differently. But most of us only think about how we feel about something and never stop to think about what that other person feels. I've noticed over the years that a lot of people look different in front of people than they do behind closed doors. Someone may be mad at someone, but actually cry when they are away from everyone. Nobody really thinks about that though. Most of the reasons a person responds to a situation the way they do is because of the way they were raised, their life experiences, and the way they view things. If we don't respect that, then there may be arguments and fights. If you've ever noticed, too, that different personalities get along with certain other personalities? Once we learn a person's personality type, then we can learn what they like and what they don't like. I get along with everyone now, only if they let me, you know, some people are too stuck up on themselves or they are too busy in life to stop. There's still going to be those people, but I don't hate them because they are usually that way because they are missing something inside. I've noticed that most people who are hateful to others have never had unconditional love, and so they don't know. People who don't have that opportunity just seem kind of dead in the eyes, and you can tell. Every single person in this world wants unconditional love, but it's hard for a lot of people to get that because of the way they are. If someone I loved tried to kill me, or hurt me, I'd still love them, I just wouldn't be able to be around them, and I'd make sure they know I’ll always love them, I just can't be around them because of the way they are. That's unconditional love. If you read the bible, it says that we should try to be as much like Jesus as we can, and he loved everyone, and didn't judge them, but he would help them with his unconditional love. He got along with everyone because he loved everyone. Even when Judas betrayed him, Jesus still loved him. If we can start being more like Jesus, unconditional love is a beautifully progressive way to start. After we learn unconditional love, that's how we can start truly learning.
I sat one day and did my deep thinking (another good thing to do) about the world and its ways. I thought "not many people care about others well, and they lie to each other and hurt the ones they love. I should be the one who will be there since no one else will." And that's another way all of this came to my head. And it's truly amazing to touch lives and watch them open their closed minds. It's so simple once you learn it, and you begin to wonder what the heck you were doing back in the days you were a normal close-minded person. But yeah, unconditional love is basically the way you get along with people. Mold your personality around theirs. Still be you, but learn what makes them happy. Eventually, after they love you, you can confide in them, and tell them things. But still yet, you need to know your trust limits.
How I talk to people varies on the personality types. I always ask if a certain topic I'm about to talk about is okay with them, and when I'm giving my opinion, I always tell them it's not to offend them, it's just what I feel. After a while, you just kind of learn how to get around that big boulder your afraid of running into with a person. You learn to use the right words with a personality type, and still be yourself. Really, after a situation ends, I think it through my brain (the deep thinking thing again!) and think of what I could have said, should have said, and what I can do the next time something like that pops up. Even if I do say the right things, I still think of ways to make it better and add it to my vocabulary list of getting along with people, the asking about a topic and stating my opinion thing is just a few of many examples to say to get along with some people to avoid the boulder. Eventually, you just learn them; you learn what makes people tick and what makes them keep calm. Some people know these things, but they use them to use other people. I use this knowledge to do good things. That's one thing that motivated me to help others is the fact that people are using this knowledge to hurt others. But all of this information boils down to one thing... unconditional love. This is God’s and my Unconditional Love Plan to throw cold water in faces, wake them up, and make them feel more alive!