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So Mike contacted me again. It was on Monday of this week, so if I remember right, exactly two weeks since he last contacted me. He just said “Hi,” so I replied “Hey.” He asked me what was up, and proceeded to tell me that it was his only day off this week and that him and some other guy he works with were going to his dad’s to “jam.” I inquired if they had a band, and he said that they don’t they just play together sometimes, but that his friend (Kyle was his name) used to play in two different bands. I asked him what kind of music they like to play, and he replied rap. I found this funny, being as Mike can’t seem any whiter, and asked him “Really? You don’t seem like you’d be into playing rap.” He didn’t reply to this, and I haven’t heard from him since yet. Sure, that wasn’t the most repliable comment (hell, maybe he thinks he's black and I offended him), but he couldn’t found something to say. And about him not seeming like he’d like rap…well, what do I know I guess. It’s not like we’ve ever hung out and I thought I knew him intimately. But on to the more pressing questions, like, for instance, What The ********?! This guy says he wants to hang out, and then doesn’t contact me for two weeks later, and has a general conversation, and once again ends it by just not replying. This is so ******** up. He mentioned nothing about his behavior nor offered any kind of explanation. I was going to ask him about it, but I was just going with the small talk first before I bombarded him with something that might feel like “over girly feelings/I’m pissed and want and explanation talk.” I was biding my time, thinking how to word my question. I probably would have asked him the next time he replied, but of course, the little b*****d didn’t reply the next time. I’m not sure how I feel about not getting to ask him. It was my chance for closure. Him contacting me again could kind of feel like closure, but in a way it opens up more questions. Luckily, this hasn’t really been bothering me though. When he contacted me, I was at the point where I was starting to be numb about the subject, so it hasn’t really broken through the barrier I put up, thank God. I pray something doesn’t happen to destroy the numb state I have reached. I would much rather be comfortably numb than be in the state I was before, where I hurt 24/7 and could think of nothing else but the pain I was in. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still feeling residual heartache, but it a dull pain in the back of my mind, not a sharp pain that dominates everything else. The thing is, I was just in Borders on Saturday too. He was there, and of course we didn’t talk, or even make eye contact, I’m sure he was aware of my presence. I was sitting at a table with my mother, and he walked right by me. I made sure to keep my eyes glued to a magazine, but still, I don’t think he could miss me. So he avoids me on Saturday, but then contacts me two days later. I’m just trying to figure out why he contacted me again. I was right there Saturday, if he had something to say, it would have been the perfect opportunity. But I don’t think he has the balls to do anything in person. I don’t think he’s interested in me romantically, because you wouldn’t ask to hang out, then not contact the person for two weeks, and offer no explanation if you were trying to get a girl. Then again, it doesn’t seem like he wants to just be friends either, because a good friend certainly wouldn’t act in this manner either. So, once again, it leaves me questioning why he contacted me. It could be that he was telling his buddy about how a girl gave him her number, and his friend told him to contact me to see what I would say and for kicks. There's no telling what his motivation could have been when he was hanging around with a friend. His behavior doesn’t fit into any scenario, besides if he’s just playing a game.

When I brought the fact up that he contacted me again to a friend, she asked if I was going to hang out with him. First of all, I don’t think that’s going to happen considering he made the offer before, didn’t contact me for two weeks, and then had a general conversation and hasn’t contacted me since. But the fact that that’s never going to happen aside, her question gave me mixed feelings. Part of me hopes he doesn’t ask, or contact me again for that matter, because his retarded behavior has ruined him in my eyes. Then another part of him hopes he will ask to hang out so I can decline his offer and hope that it hurts him. Then another part of me (shame on this part) hopes he asks and follows through so we can hang out. I hate how I always get confusing, conflicting emotions. Anyways, not that I probably have to worry about him even contacting me again. Or maybe he’ll just contact me once every two weeks for some small talk. I have to insert another WTF here. I’m seriously thinking there are two possible answers to this though: A. He’s either seriously mentally slow in some way, or B. He really is ******** with me and this is just a game to him. I don’t know. I just don’t know what to think right now in general. I can’t stand this. I wish he’d either man up, keep in contact with me and treat me right (or at least act like a ******** normal human being), or just not contact me at all.