Virgos are Tsunderes. I found out from a Yahoo! Answers answer lol, "which sign would be a Tsundere."
Yes, we are tsunderes when we want to trust someone but can't. We like the person but we're always subtle so the person won't be able to tell. The person will be confused because she's nice and seems to like you but it'll waver. We don't want to tell the person out of fear and politeness (the bluntness is uncomfortable), so we hint. We don't hint a lot and act like a friend (shut off emotions) because we haven't gotten a response from the person in order to continue and complete the confession. We want to trust the person with our hearts and it looks like it's safe, but sometimes it's not and we change to another truth: we don't care. We clearly know who is in our lives and who isn't, which causes any closes on relationships and walking away like nothing, so the uncaring would be true. We don't just leave people because we feel like it. The decision to leave is always carefully thought-out decision. We never regret it. We make sure we never regret it before doing anything.
I would only do that with new people. I choose who is my friend and who isn't because this makes sense, doesn't it? Who would be friends with someone they're incompatible with? Who would be friends with someone they know they will dislike? Who would still spend time with someone not for their enjoyment but for no reason, or for the other person's sake? Exactly. I easily realize this, when talking to new people, when I see nothing in our small talk that could make us friends for a long time, based on primary interactions, from first meeting to a couple of hang-outs - to see if we have anything in common in our personalities. A Virgo doesn't ditch a relationship. Okay? When we leave a "friend", "it's a carefully throughout decision." We never regret it because we make sure we won't regret the decision before acting on it. We don't like to leave. The person's a great person. Just .. not the right person to be friends with. Virgos believe that being friendly with someone doesn't make them your friend. Friendship goes way deeper with us. Think Fairy Tail. And it's really suitable because, actually, I found out, if someone hurts a Virgo's friend, we retaliate like it happened to us. (Wow, no wonder I love Fairy Tail, Bleach, One Piece, Sailor Moon (as a kid), and others that have strong friendship in their theme/series.) It's not because we're crazy (unlike the Fairy Tail trope that I can't find about them snapping when someone gets hurt) - we're serious.
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"The intellectual detachment that characterizes most Virgos prevents emotions from shaping actions, which usually keeps fights and destructive impulses to a minimum, unless the ascendant falls in a more passionate sign. However, this exceptional self-control can make Virgos appear cold, and this perception is exacerbated by the Virgo ability to walk away from relationships suddenly without looking back. Because they tend not to show emotion or express their feelings openly, when Virgos are unhappy in a situation, their partners may not know until it's too late. And Virgos disentangle from people relatively easily, making the decision to go based on rationality and logic rather than emotion."
(When you have to leave a new person, you have to leave ._. Meeting new people is tricky. It's a trial and error games where you have to search through thousands of people, within a given area (eg: school/campus), and somehow magically find your future friends. You think that's easy? When you meet "wrong" people many times, it's annoying. The person may be nice and friendly. Okay, and? ; ^ : Is there anything else? D8 I need a connection, not multiple small talk conversations, so it's trial and error and trial and error with people who may seem like a good choice. I hate being wrong during this time.)
"If a Virgo ends a relationship with someone they shouldn't go back, we wouldn't end it for no reason."
"Virgos know what they want and they won't waste time on something they know isn't going to work out."
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"Everything takes time with a Virgo, I.e love friendships etc."/"Virgos have a hard time putting trust in other people."
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"If you don't make the effort with a Virgo, nothing will get accomplished."/"If a Virgo sees you're not putting in any effort neither will they"/"A Virgo will treat you how you treat them."/"Virgos don't just trust people, you have to earn it."/"Virgos hate to see someone not appreciate what they have."/"Virgos don't set out to get praised, we just want to be appreciated."/"Virgos are so subtle that you won't even realize how much you'll miss them when they're gone. We do so many little things."
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"Virgos don't do things for just anyone, it has to be someone or something we care about. "
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"Virgos care about people who care about them."
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"Virgos take so much to heart, but we try not to show it."/"You can tell a Virgo is really hurt when they don't say anything at all."/"A Virgo could be so hurt and no one would ever know."
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"Virgos are very aware of the people who matter in their lives, and the people who don't."
((Only for people who were our friends and it's sad to leave, we can stay for someone else’s sake and not ours, like if someone likes to stay friends and we've already decided it's best to be not close friends, making the person an acquaintance in our eyes; luckily, busy schedules on both sides can help this decision look like it's not anyone's plan. This only applies to one person. Usually I leave when there's no compatibility because one is either a good friend, lasting a looooong time, or a stranger. (or dorm mate).))
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I guess it can be .. an awful experience for the viewer/person of affection, but we have pride and our extensive defence system around our hearts. Virgos hate vulnerability, and aren't normally vulnerable, and love in the beginning stage is the greatest hazard.
"Virgos have willpower like no other."
Take flirtatious people, for a good example. Trust? You die.
-raises her eyebrow- Harsh? No. It's true. So it's a little strong, but I was trying to emphasis it for people who aren't in the mental POV (imagining it), yet, of liking a person they can't trust.
You like the person, the person likes you, the person directs their attention to someone else as if you were just another human being, then much later, the person talks to you again like you mean something to them, you've always meant something to them, and you were probably just thinking too much about it (talk about mind games), which causes you to think you were wrong about the person. Resuming the conversation/relationship, you slightly trust the person, entertaining the person by talking to them, still aware and cautious because they were the first to act distrustful.
Do you really expect me to like the person? Does it even look like I do?? If anyone asked if I liked that person, I'd say, "Nnng 8T" - the majority is no. Exactly, I don't even like them anymore. Sure, a little crush, because why not, but pfht. You're kidding, right? To put your attention on that kind of person means the end of your life because you're paying attention to that person. You've got the nerve to do that? You might as well have no life as an equivalent.
-growls in frustration- And you can see why I don't like the Earl, Edgar J.C. Ashenbert, like Lydia. I can respect him and I do, but ... You know -shakes head- Edgar, though possessing his good points sometimes, he's .. a handful to manage while keeping your sanity. Um, as much sanity as people think you have when you're a Fairy Doctor, that is > >;;.
Tsunderes. Like the person, don't like the person, it's all about safety. Why like someone who's going to be with you for a short time because the relationship won't last? Who wants bad judgement? Who likes to be mistaken? Yeah, no (no thanks).
Apparently, I'm a "Dandere" too O - o (Tropes website)
(in real life; online, I talk to people anyway sometimes ^ u ^)
I didn't even know that was a existing term!
Strangers know nothing, how wonderful C:
A few years ago, I was advised to show the "bubbly side of" me that my friend only "get to see." I agreed, and tried from then on. It was mostly due to the fact that you spend time with the same people in your grade for five years - you know them and .. they know you. I had nothing to be afraid of so I didn't have to hold back. But much later, I thought no. Why? It's better to have a few true friends than have so many people you've not even close to. If you stay with me long enough, only a few people get to see a flower open up and bloom. That's how I like it. It's a privilege (a benefit enjoyed only by a person beyond the advantages of most) to know me and it's not something seven billion people are so easily allowed to have. It seems rude and uncomfortable to be forever and automatically open to every single person I meet. That's just creepy. Acting the way I do around my family but be like that with everyone currently alive as my default/as my person/as myself. It's like barging into a war zone in your causal clothing, innocent and unarmed. Doesn't anyone find that a little odd? I don't mean the "being in the wrong time period/zone" thing. I know if one is careless and oblivious, someone just jumps in without thinking and without their armour, but what about when one stops to realize, and thinks something's a little off with that?
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