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Aww Gawd!!

I have been made out to be the bad guy and I hate it when people point the finger at me.

It began like this:
I recieve a PM from a friend (F1), who is also a friend of the same friend (F2) we have. I was asking F2 to stop something politely and then he tells F1 behind my back with out solving the problem first with me. The F2 gets in my face saying that I am saying bad stuff about him (F1) and that I should appologize to F1. That is when the "I have been made out to be the bad guy" feeling kicks in and it hurts me. So doing what I was told so the feeling goes away but still lingers, F2 better appologize to me if he finds out that what F1 said is wrong, cause the words got mixed up. Then if F2 finds out that the story is true, then my apology it valid to F1. But if F1 and F2 had accused me of wrong doing, then both F1 and F2 owe me an apology.

Hint Intervention:
1. Never bring a girlfriend/boyfriend or another friend into the conflict, it will make the relationship worse.
2. Solve the problem with the friend and not bring a 3rd party in.
3. If a solution isn't solved, then bring in a 3rd party that you trust but never a boyfriend or girlfriend cause they will take sides with their boyfriend or girlfriend. A friend that is a true good friend that can see both point of views.


To avoid ending a relationship with a friend:
1. Avoid 3rd parties such as girlfriends/boyfriends, other friends and family.
2. Put everything on the table with the friend you don't get along with.
3. Focus on what both of you like and share in common.
4. Straigten out the differences in a clam manner with out fighting.
5. If step four can not be done, bring in what "Hint Intervention" step 3 says.

This is highly effective to solving problems and conflicts and remember to keep the argument between yourselves untill you both agree that a 3rd party is needed.