I realized something today. In my past relationships I spent every second I could talking to the girl. I always wanted to be communicating in some way. I realize now though that I shouldn't have pushed to talk to them all the time. Don't get me wrong communication is nice, talking is necessary in a relationship. The only problem with doing so is that if you don't set aside time to be apart; if you never step back, and just give each other time away from each other. You will fall into this routine of always having to talk to them. This may not seem like a bad thing, but eventually you will run out of things to talk about. You then start associating talking with them as a chore.I think this is why a lot of marriages fail. The love could be pure and true, but being forced to spend every second around each other would just be maddening; In fact it would be boring.
I really wish I would have realized all of this sooner. I had some really good things going for me, but I blew it all just because I had false notions of what a relationship should be. I think next time I'm in a relationship I'm gonna work on finding the balance. Perhaps this will finally give me a worthwhile relationship. The only problem is that I'm not the only one that believes you need to constantly be talking. I guess luck will come into play here.
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