I'm worried about a family member of mine. My dad to be specific. He has a lot of health issues that aren't his fault (he got bad genes and let's leave it at that) and he's going to have back surgery soon. I'm worried that he might not make it through surgery because of all his medical problems. His back is literally shrinking and compressing on his nerves and he has diabeties and high blood pressure. If the surgery goes through without any problems he'll be in back brace for 3-6 months at least, and the total recovery time is between 6-9 months and up to a year. But I don't care how long it takes him to recover, just that he's still there you know? He's in excrutiating pain all the time and I'm scared to death that he won't make it. He's the only father figure I've ever had in my life and I love him. God it's sad that some nights I'm practically bawling my eyes out like a baby because of how scared I am and I'm turning 21 this October. I'm scared and I probably seem pretty pathetic right now huh? On top of everything else next week the family is going on vacation and I'm afraid that something might happen to him while we're on vacation. What does a person do in a situation like this?
I had posted this under a thread in this guild I'm in and here's what I was told:
Guild Carver1
Well Chez I understand what you're going through surgery is a scary thing no matter if it is you or a loved one that is going to have it done. And no you do not seem pathetic it is normal to be scared and fear for you're father's life. Now I understand the medical problems me myself at one time was borderline diabetic. I have also been told I should be on high blood pressure medicine because the stupid doctor I had had me completely pissed off at her when she took my pressure that day but anyway. Its normal to worry and what you need to focus on is that the people doing the surgery are highly trained professionals and you need to keep telling you're self that he is going to make it and that everything is going to be alright and that he will pull through this. And maybe the vacation is just the thing you need to clear you're mind from all the stress god knows breaking away from all the stress helps me stay sane. So just remember keep it in you're heart that he will be fine and stay strong no matter what happens and never I don't care what happens to you in life don't you ever give up. 
