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I think that these will really help me. I want to make a poster of them so that I see it every day.

1: Stop Speaking: No one cares. By spontaneously speaking, you are merely making enemies and embarrassing yourself.

2: If speach is necessary, make it a reflection of what the other person has just said. Do not offer new information, rather prompt the other person to continue speaking. They are not looking for suggestions, just someone to listen. They are merely awaiting their turn to speak again, and you should accommodate that.

3: Never have a negative interaction/disagree with anyone about anything. Reflect on what they have said in an objective manner with a smile on your face (try to be as cute as possible). Do not add new information. Do not make judgments. Just give them a prompt so that they will start talking again.

4: Reward yourself for these positive interactions, and do not reward yourself for negative interactions. This will keep you in the operant conditioning flow. Complete personality adjustment is not easy, and no one is going to help you through it. You must keep it up yourself. Eliminate negativity.

5: Remember that no one really cares about you, your role is simply to coexist with them without any real attachment, despite how you may feel about them. When you walk out of the room, they no longer remember that you were there. They are not judging you as harshly as you are judging yourself. No one is really thinking about it, or about you at all. There is no need to worry yourself into a panic attack, just remember what you did wrong (perhaps record it somewhere) and use it for future reference. You cannot do this overnight. You need time and discipline.

6: Remember that nothing that upsets you is valid. Acknowledge that you are hurt/upset, but do not show it, and blog about it later. Or perhaps keep a notebook near at all times so that you can write it down. Take a nerve pill if you must, but do not try to make others see your position. See rule #1.

7: Keep a blog on Gaia whenever something upsets you. Draw a picture. There are many things that you can do that do not involve upsetting other people. Remember that the way Buisprone works is that the more upset you are when you take it, the more relaxed and high you will be 20 minutes later when it kicks in.